How to Improve Your People Skills
3 Common Mistakes
Superior people skills are the hallmark of all exceptionally successful people. Neglect this critical skill and you limit both your career prospects and your social life.
Still, it is easy to get complacent and many of us are on the verge of communication skills mastery but we keep making the same mistakes again and again.
There are three common mistakes you may be making without even realizing it. Read on to discover the solutions to these problems.
1. Judging Your Performance Against Unrealistic Standards
Be honest with yourself.
Accept that where you are now in terms of your communication skills is only your starting point - not your finishing point.
And assess your performance and your progress against your typical level of effectiveness. Not against some desired state of perfection or ultimate goal.
Goals are very important as a destination to aim for but do not use long term goals as a standard to judge your current performance against - that is a recipe for disillusionment and massive frustration.
I know. Because I tried it!
2. The Failure To Learn Each Day
As people we can be lazy. This means that a lack of follow through on our goals can go unnoticed. After all we can always catch up some other day.
This attitude will kill your dreams faster than you can spell failure.
When I started to make massive improvements in how I related to people I dedicated myself to becoming excellent.
Once I had proven strategies the rest was easy. I just applied the material each day. I improved each day because I made it a priority and because I committed to applying the material.
I also know people who learned the same peak performance strategies I learned. Today they are no farther ahead than they were years ago.
How did they pull that off?
By putting it off until another day and by neglecting to use what they had learned. Implementation is crucial.
If you follow through progress is a certainty.
3. Attempting To Be Original
Many years ago I put myself under huge pressure by expecting myself to be original with each person I met.
This is a sure-fire strategy for failure and a great way to get stressed out for no reason.
Guess what I later discovered?
There is no need to be original. You can have the same conversation all day long with different people and nobody will suspect a thing!
People are happy to talk about mundane topics because there is no effort involved.
I have lived or worked in several countries including Ireland, England, Germany, Holland, Spain and the U.S.
And everywhere I have been people are happy to talk all day about:
- the weather
- their children
- the new movie
- the family pet
- the boss
- the traffic
You get the idea!
Now, start applying these distinctions right away and watch you career soar. Then get your scheduler out because your social life is about to take off.
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About the Author
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
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