Single Parent Dating

What to expect when your new partner has kids

If you are dating a single parent, do you have concerns about how their children will affect your relationship? Dont worry, there are many ways you can help the relationship with both with your new partner and their kids. Take the time to understand the issues and there is no reason why your relationship should not go smoothly.

You need to be able to accept your partner as part of a family deal. For them dating as a single parent will be tricky at times and the children will need to come first. However, dont be too disappointed when plans come unstuck because of illness or problems with childcare. Your partner will appreciate your understanding and there is always a next time!

If your partner no longer lives with their children, youll probably find that you are not included in access visits to start with. This is no reflection on you or your relationship. Its just that these times are very precious both to the children and their parent. Avoid putting any pressure on your partner and let them decide when the time is right to include you.

If your partners children feel you are taking up their parents attention during access visits, they may feel resentful towards you before you even meet. Respect the privacy of these times and dont call too often or just turn up. Never ask your partner to cancel arrangements with the kids, you will probably just be disappointed!

For the full time single parent, planning a date well in advance is essential. The need to arrange childcare and a good night sleep overrides any sudden impulse to go for a night on the town. Also, you will need to understand that the pressures of bringing up children alone can simply mean your partner will be too tired or stressed to go out. In this case, relax and stay in. And why not reorganize your date for when the kids visit their other parent, if possible.

Single parent dating is a big step for anyone so be sensitive to your new partners potential reluctance to let you know too many personal details initially. They may seem overly cautious and you could consider this to be a personal insult as you see no reason for it but it is almost certainly their protective nature coming to the fore and making sure their kids are not exposed in anyway. Instead of being upset by this try to be understanding and make a conscious effort to be open and build their trust from the start. Your new partner will appreciate your understanding and it will help build a much stronger long term relationship.

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