Millionaire Dating Goals: Having A Realistic Dating Goal

Some daters in online dating have set their relationship goals in such high pedestals that even they get blinded by the shadows of their own fantasy. Having specifications regarding your relationship is good, but set it on realistic terms. If you dwell too much on fantasy then it could be unhealthy for you and your partner. You should not dictate how your partner should be, but rather open up. Stop seeing the flaws if he doesn't meet your requirements and then you will see the beauty of love and acceptance.

Here are a few lists to tell whether your relationships are probably reasonable:

You would want a "spark", any spark would do: it could either be mental, physical or emotional. You just want to feel that connection and attraction from him. You would want to meet up with a person who you would find just simply amusing, exciting or adventurous. And not being too obsessed by the unrealistic thought that they would "treat you like a queen". you would want to be with a single whom you have similar perceptions in life and in dating, but not necessary identical to what you believe in. You want to find someone with the same willingness to make a relationship work out on whatever terms there may be. You'd want to be with someone who has similar long term dating goals. Whether it's just with casual dating, co-habitation or marriage.

This is just a few of many single's lists when it comes to relationships. But what should you do when your expectations don't fall into any category at all?

Simple, learn to brainstorm your relationship expectations starting from yourself, your partner and the relationship you'd set for each other. Get a piece of paper and let your imagination fly, brainstorm for a bit, 10 or 15 minutes will do. Now, close your eyes and try to imagine life with your singles. How would he be like? What are his interests, qualities, traits, skills and emotional capability? just let your mind wander freely. Now, if you find it hard to work out your imagination, then try looking back into your past relationships. Use the "Positive" aspects and experiences from that relationship as a starting guide for you.

If you have finished creating a list, the next thing to do is to sort them out. Jot them down in two columns, the first one being the ones essential for your happiness and the second one, what you want but not necessarily needed by you. After doing so, you can learn how to rank your goals and expectations. List them again, now in a separate sheet of paper and write them down according to importance. We know it's not that easy but try to work it out for yourself- no pressure here! Just take your time until you have that feeling that you got the right combination. Now realize that expectations change, your top 5 won't remain in that ranking forever. Your needs change and you mature, same goes with your expectations. So take a look at them once in a while and tell yourself what you need right now and face it.

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