1 Over The Top Way To Excel And Win As An Insensitive Father

Obviously, you decided on reading this article because you were attracted to it for one or more personal reasons.

With that in mind, please allow me to ask you a question: one which I am quite sure that I know how you will answer. However, I do ask the question for the purpose of capturing your attention:

"Do you desire to prevail as a completely, out of this world, Insensitive Dad?

Of course not.

But should you desire to know at least one very uncool way for that to be accomplished, here it is:

Be an angry dad. Speak in anger. Glare in anger. Refuse requests in anger. And don't let things go in anger.

I'll bet you know someone who qualifies as "an angry dad."

And if so, you know the frustration of the spouse and the discouragement of the children.

Anger diminishes the spirit, Can destroy dreams, Fosters bitterness, And the effects can last for years: years.

--- Four Ways To Help Win The War On Anger --

1. Control your thoughts.

2. Listen and speak in love.

3. Affirm often.

4. Remember that your children are persons-in-the-making: not just children.

Controlling Your Thoughts

While sounding almost disarmingly simple, do not let the simplicity of the statement to lay aside the profound effect that controlling our thoughts can have on how we act, react and respond to our children.

Make a commitment to think positively about life... and your children, dad.

Ask yourself:

"Am I thinking in the truth? Are the thoughts running around in my head on a day by day, moment by moment basis truthful ones?"

"Are my thoughts about life and my family excellent ones? Do they embody such concepts as beauty, love, respect, honor, and admiration?"

Listen and Speak In Love

Think first in love and then speak what you think. Learn to be a "listen to the heart and speak from the heart" father.

You know the importance of this statement:

"My dad knows and understands me."

You know it!

Dad, strive to be a "he knows and understands me" dad. You do that by caring enough to listen and listening well enough to respond in love as you do.

Affirm Often. Demand less and affirm more. Encourage more often than not. Build up consistently. And consistently refrain from "cut downs" said in half-truthful humor that hurts more than it helps.

Remember That Your Children Are Persons-In-The-Making: Not Just Children

Little people are just that: little people.

And as little people, they reflect all the ups and downs, crazy times, serious times, dreams, desires and passions as normal persons do.

True, they may be "small sized" dreams, passions, ups and downs, serious times, crazy times and passion filled moments...

But those times are small sized people times!

In The End...

Lay aside anger and purpose to be a loving, affirming, good speaking and thinking in excellence dad.

Do it for the sake of your family. Do it for your own internal well being. But just do it.

And you will be glad you did.

**Praying Simple**

"Oh Lord, help me to be the dad you desire me to be. And should anger begin to raise its sin-sick head in my life and begin to rule, send your Spirit my way to bail me out, seek forgiveness, and keep moving forward in the power of your Holy Spirit. In Your Name -- in your most precious Name, Amen!"

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