Are they cheating?
Are they cheating?
The uncertainty of your partners fidelity can literally ruin your life.
If you are a commited member of a partnership, the suspicion, that your partner may not be as commited or even straying, can weigh heavily on your mind.
Thoughts of what they may be doing right now,scream across your consciousness all the time. You can't focus on your work, or any other activity. Like a cancer destroying your body, these thoughts, are destroying your mind.
Chinese water torture would be a relief compared to what you are going through. You need to stop it- right now.
Do whatever you need to do, to preserve your sanity. Think about how you want to handle the situation, when you confront yor partner. Keep your cool. If emotions get to take over, you may say things, or do something that is stupid and that you will regret later.
You might decide to gather proof first. Look out for telltale signs, changes in behavior, change in shedule etc. A sudden loss of sexualappetite with you,should send off warning bells.
If at all possible, try and get some help, to see you through this time. Friends or professional help is important. Get some information and facts about your options, and how to handle the situation.
Unless you want to go absolutely mad, resolve the issue some way.
An affair need not be the end of a relationship, thoughit very often is. Either way,the level of trust that existed before the incident, needs to be reestablished.
Counseling and a renewed look at your mutual value system is mandatory. A permanent dissolution of the partnership may not always be the optimum solution. Always try and get an unbiased opinion, before making any huge decisions.
Whatever happens, remember that true love can conquer all.
About the Author
Who is Udo Vieth? He is fast becoming an expert on love, relationship, romance. Apart from being a qualified EFT and Biofeedback practitioner, he has been through the mill as far as relationships go. He is presently in a fulfilling relationship, but remembers the pitfalls all too well. He has set up a website: http:// www.Toprelationships.com where information regarding all aspects of relationships, as well as some freebies are available.
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