Cognitive Truisms

These are cognitive restructuring truths used in manualized cognitive lifeskills workbooks to help people change distorted thinking and self-defeating behaviors.

If you keep on doing the same things that you have been doing; you will keep on getting what you have been getting. To change what you have been getting; you must change what you have been doing.

Life is short and fragile. A healthy person lives only around 800 to 900 months or about 600,000 hours. Birth and death aren't the important parts, but what happens in between birth and death.

The subconscious mind doesnt know right from wrong. It is simply a tape that plays back that which has been programmed into it. To change subconscious thoughts and values requires a six-step process.

Much of what we are today was scripted while we were young. Scripting, whether good or bad, continues to be handed down from parent to child. Our relations who are deceased are still having a controlling influence on our personal lives.

People can diminish the wrong that was done to them, they can choose to be neutral and pass on what offenders did to them or they can be magnifiers and make things worse. The message is that they have the ability to overcome their past and rewrite their future. They may influence their posterity in a good or bad way. It is all up to them.

If a person is seen acting in a negative or self destructive way, lift his/her lid and look underneath to see a person who is hurting. And, under that will be found usually a worthwhile person.

One can discern good from bad by what it produces. Doing wrong has never brought true happiness and never will. One may decide to do wrong, but one cannot decide the consequences.

Six basic emotional needs are required for people to have happy lives. Men and women who do not get their needs met usually become emotionally damaged or handicapped. Nevertheless, they can choose to overcome their emotional handicaps through forgiving others and moving on with their life. Life moves forward when the past is set free.

Life can be unfair. Bad things happen to nice people.

Humans generally treat other people as they are. If people do not trust you, it is because you are not trustworthy. If people do not believe you it is because you have been known to lie. If others do not show you respect, it is because you dont keep your word. If others fear you, it is because you are unkind. If you go back to prison, it is because you are a criminal.

Anger is a secondary emotion caused by primary emotions caused by one or more of the four basic sources. Those who anger us control us.

In marriage, the thing that matters most are the people. If a married couple wishes to improve their marriage, then they have to change themselves.

Proper communication first requires seeking to understand and then seeking to be understood.

If you choose to do what is wrong, you allow other people and the circumstances around you to have power over your life.

Doing wrong ensures that life will not get better. Offenders will endure the consequences of their bad decisions.

Numerous individuals with bad beginnings will have bad endings. Their past equals their future unless they make a permanent change.

Who we are is what we do. What we do is who we are. We cant hide who we are because ultimately we will give ourselves away by what we do. Our long-term behavior is a direct indication of our values and who we are.

Emotionally damaged people are better people than they believe they are. They believe lies others have told them about themselves and have been programmed into believing the untruth about themselves. If they do not become self-aware and make an effort to begin changing they'll keep on getting the same results.

Cecil B. Demille once said, "We cannot break the laws; we can only break ourselves against them." Some of these laws are love, affirmation, sympathy, appreciation and security. To the degree these are missing, we become damaged.

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