Dating Advice For Single Mums: What I Should Tell My Kids About My Relationship Status

What should I tell my kids about my dating life? Well, we all know how important your kids are to you but don't involve them in your dating life. So there, you don't need to explain anything to your kids, especially about your dating life. Why? You know the Cinderella's story right? Well anyone who comes into your life will be the evil stepmother/ stepfather.

Remember this rule of thumb when it comes to dating and relationships: all information that you give out your kids should be strictly on the "need to know" basis. This is on the exception that your new partner is on a long-term player in your life, otherwise just keep quiet about your dating life.

Relationship Status: Blind Dates

One of the most frightening and scary concept to explain to a child is the idea of meeting stranger and dating them. Parents always teach their kids not to talk to strangers and not meet up with people they've just met. This is a complicated and confusing idea to be explained to a child.

When you are in online dating, be conscious around your kids. Make sure that you log out of your email when you step away from your computer. Close out and log off in your online dating service site when your kids use the computer. Clear your history browser and your cookies too so that your kids can't go out checking out places you've been to. When you and your date are talking on the phone make sure your kids are out of ear shot.

If your going out on a date, there's no harm in telling your kids that you are out with friends. Sometimes, sharing the truth can do more harm than good so it's better to keep some things to yourself.

Relationship Status: Still Dating

Let's say you've been together for 3-4 months already and you think things have been going smoothly with your date; you've had plenty of conversations chats, on the phone and have met a couple of times. But then again, it's too early to let your kids know about this relationship. Never introduce your new partner to your kids prematurely, you're kids might felt betrayed. Remember the "Cinderalla" concept? Any new person who comes into your life, your kids will perceive as a threat to you and your ex getting back together. So why tell them about it when it's going to be a split decision and their vote won't matter?

There may be unseen consequences if you introduce your partner early. What happens if your relationship turns sour? You and your kids will be affected and you have to deal with the disappointments. So resist the temptation to introduce your new date while early in your relationship.

Relationship Status: In A Relationship With...

Now that you and your date has moved on from being casual daters to be full boyfriend/girlfriend, and it seems he's sticking around and handling things well, then it would seem like the perfect time to meet. Of course he should have known about your kids at this point. Set your ideals on their first meeting to be realistic, make sure that it's centered around your kids, make it stress-free and limit the time. Don't push them, just let things unfold naturally and when the right timing comes, then wing it! Just remember that the time spent should be unpressured and stress-free.

Remember these tips whatever relationship status you are under. Your kids are precious to you and you don't want to give them the idea that you are "betraying" them by ruining their fantasies of you getting back with your ex. Always take note of this when you are out with Mr. Prospect to Mr. Right, for you and your kids.

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