Winning Back Your Ex-Boyfriend: Did Controlling Behavior Kill Your Relationship?

Your boyfriend has left you, maybe over your protests. You are in pain, and your repeated requests for him to give your relationship another chance have gotten you no where.

Relax. Take a deep breath.

You can win him back, and it will probably be a lot easier than you think it will be. But you will only win him back if you use tactics that tap directly into male psychology - and use them in precisely the right way.

You already know that men and women have very differently "wired" psyches, and you must know exactly how to push his emotional hot buttons, or you will probably accidentally make things even worse than they are right now.

For example, here is just one of the many major mistakes that women often make with their boyfriends.

Controlling Behavior: Some women (and you know if you're one of them) get into relationships, and at some point they start seeing (and treating) their boyfriends as their property.

Maybe those women feel threatened by other women, their boyfriends' buddies, his job commitments, or any one of dozens of other things. Those women then begin seeking to relieve their own anxiety by behaviors like the following:

* Questioning him about who he's with whenever you're not together

* Quizzing him about who he will be seeing on business trips

* Checking his phone log to see who he has been talking to

* Objecting when he wants to hang out with the guys

And there are many more controlling behaviors that insecure women inflict on their boyfriends. Very bad!! Men do not like being controlled (in fact, many of them believe that the "control" in a relationship should belong to them), and it's only a matter of time until they will "rebel" against the various limits that a controlling woman is trying to impose on their lives.

Don't blame him personally for this. He can't help it - it's just part of his male wiring, and you can't change that. Actually, you probably wouldn't like having to "account" for your time to him, either!

So - if this is you, what can you do about it?

Memorize this phrase. Write it out one hundred times if you have to. Tape it to your mirror, your frig door, your phone, your car's steering wheel, and anyplace else you will see it frequently.

Here it is: She who acts the least controlling, actually controls her relationship.

Sounds strange, but it is completely true. If you know you have been a controlling woman, you must immediately cease all behaviors that attempt to impose control.

This will be painful and difficult for you. You may feel that that you simply must know everything you can find out about your boyfriend's activities apart from you. But trust me on this one - controlling behavior is one of the biggest relationship killers.

Stay strong, and know that every day that you allow to go by without making even the slightest effort to control your ex-boyfriend brings you one day closer to getting him back.

Of course, this is just a summary of one of many tactics that have been proven to be very powerful and effective in winning back an ex-boyfriend. To implement this and other proven tactics in the most powerful way, you will need more exact directions and even word-for-word scripts.

Whatever you do, don't make even one controlling move until you know more about the total strategy. Don't give up hope. You can win him back. You just need exact, proven directions on how to do it.

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