Are YOU Keeping The Good Stuff Out

Man who waits for roast duck to fly into mouth must wait very, very long time. Chinese proverb

It strikes me that very often we're waiting for things to happen to us. We're waiting for the lucky break - the big contract at work, the kids to be happy at home, our soul-mate to show up or that thing, you know the thing that really makes life completely worthwhile and meaningful.

But does it happen?

Put your hand on your heart and ask yourself, is the thing you most want to happen, honestly just going to show up?

Keep your hand there for a moment, and now ask is there something, or a series of things you could do that will bring this into your reality, a step at a time?

I book out a half day each quarter to review where I'm at with the unfolding of my life. Here, I gage my feelings about who I am against who I might become. I then work out if that's what I really want and if it is, I consider what I can do to draw this closer to me in the next few months.

Sometimes I find I have some resistance to the things I come up with during my review, despite the fact I know these things are good for me and it is aligned to who I want to be.

Why does this happen?

Authors, Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks talk about something they call 'upper limits'. When we hit the ceiling of something we feel we can't take anymore of the good stuff. This then activates a resistance - the fear stuff - the stepping out into the unknown.

During the last four months I wrestled with an issue. I knew what I need to do, but for 120 days didn't do it. It's something close to my heart and I know when I deal with the resistance I will have grown massively and opened my heart fully.

But when I think about that, I hit my upper limit - the safety limit - of the level of love I currently feel I can handle. To go beyond that is scary. You see, when you move beyond resistance you step from the chains of the past into something new which is most probably incredible.

Often people do this too. It's evident to me when they email or phone me and ask for a coaching. In a variety of ways they're saying to me, 'I need a new level of understanding and some hope to an persistent problem.' I know I can help. They know I can help, but when it comes to the crunch, often they choose to stay stuck and fight the resistance, rather than evaporate the problem.

Yet it's odd that we would resist the love and incredible feeling swe could have by moving on.

Last week I decided to break my resistance. I sent an email to the person who I know can help me. I told him what I wanted. He said he could help me by coaching me. I looked at the fees and asked if I was worth it. I decided I was and accepted his help. And I moved on within 7 days.

And to think I spent 120 days in resistance when it was that easy!

My tip for you today, is to look at where you are offering resistance. Are you financially hard up? Are you stuck in a job you don't like and want to change? Is your business going nowhere? Are your kids a nightmare? Are you feeling unhealthy and want to get fit? Is your relationship going in the right direction? Are you looking for a new lifestyle with greater balance and harmony?

There is good stuff on the other side of resistance. Put your hand on your heart and ask if you are ready for it.

Love and good wishes

Neil

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