Two Common Reasons For Singleness

Over the years it has become common knowledge that many people are marrying late and also many are not marrying at all. Safe to say the number of those single is unusually high across the globe. Whilst many choose to be single for personal and varying reasons, there are also many within the single community who are not single by choice. These are people who are still single, however deep on the inside do want a relationship. Some suddenly realise that the age they have approached is now sending mixed signals across the social circles. This may be relatives or just friends.This is because people by nature have certain expectations when it comes to certain things. Whilst this may vary from culture to culture, the issue still remains the same that in each society or culture there are certain expectations that come with age. When someone reaches a certain age, families, friends and relatives often have their own expectations about what they should have and who this person should be. For e.g in some cultures by the time a woman hits her 30s she is expected to be married and having kids. However, reality tells a different story.

There are many variables why certain people reach and exceed the 'expected age' of marriage and still remain single. This can have so many effects on the person in relation to their social circle. Often if unchecked stigma can often set in, which is another topic altogether.Some cities like Melbourne are known to be places for men drought. This simply means there are not enough men in the city and consequently ladies have a lesser chance of finding a boyfriend let alone get married. Whilst that label may not be reflective of individual circumstances, it does carry the numbers in a way.There are many reasons for prolonged singleness. Here I am going to share two.

1) Sexual Dreams

For so many years many people have often believed medical science when it comes to sexual dreams. Many have often decoded these dreams with a simple biological, psychological and emotional explanation. Some have translated those dreams to reflect the need for the dreamer to have intimacy, this could be a man or a woman deemed to be looking for a romantic relationship. However, from a spiritual stand point and general manifestations that have been observed on the ground its a different story. Sexual dreams are often linked to and associated with turbulent relationships. Sometimes general mishap when a relationship is about to blossom. I remember coaching one lady a few years ago who send me an email about this subject. She was shocked as I told her exactly some of the things that were occurring in her life as a result of the sexual dreams. What this lady had done was come across one of my online articles about dreams on Faithwriters. This is a christian community for writers etc. She sent a message about some of her dreams. Based only on those dreams, I managed to zeroe in on some of the things that were actually happening in her life. This is what rocked her world, she confirmed everything I said. Based on that alone, she was eager to check out my other work. Dreams often carry important information. This was not only the first time I had done that, had done that too for many other people including one chap who constantly dreamnt in front of altars.

Having said that, lets get back to the subject of Sexual Dreams. There is a link between sexual dreams and at times, financial insufficiency as well as marital and general relationship turbulence. Over the years I have studied the lives of many people both in and outside the church. This was easy to do as many people would ask about dream meanings etc and also of course my role of serving the church. With a few years of serving the church you naturally come to realise the nature of some of the issues that many people face. Mix that with regular skype calls with friends from overseas serving different churches etc one begins to see trends and patterns not only limited to this area but many other areas too. For example I dont need to be a prophet to know that the number need for many christians is financial breakthrough. So sexual dreams are common with many people, for women or girls, they dream having sex with a male figure they may know or they may not know. However the good thing is that these type of dreams can be stopped. The good thing though is that these dreams can be stopped and the manifestations that come with them stop once the sexual dreams themselves have stopped.

2) Generational Curses

To many people these may not be something easy to confront. However many can't deny their existence. These,to be simply defined are patterns that occur in a family tree. In other words by looking at a family tree one can see patterns. This is often interesting because some pattens can be spotted between generations that never spoke or communicated. For e. g in some families, the generation of fathers and mothers that went by had cancer and the generation of their parents had cancer and the current generation in a family has someone or some people with cancer.

This can vary from diseases to even things like divorce, this means there is a pattern of divorce in a family tree and sometimes late marriages in a family tree. These things can be dealt with and changed, but it requires a different and elaborate prayer strategy. Generational curses are often the lead cause of some of the problems that many people face. Having said that, it's unfortunate that many church leaders seem to shy away from them. They need to be confronted, and for most people it's a DIY approach as not many pastors are willing to go that path. In some cases, some pastors dont know how to break generational curses. Some others its a case of they have already 'moved on' from that teaching, they are now teaching other things. Having said that, that doesnt mean people dealing with them or their effects will simply wake up and one day its over, its now up to each individual to do their due diligence and confront what they need to confront and bring about positive change in their lives.

Isn't it interesting that doctors often take a person's blood for testing. Based on those blood tests and further questioning they can often come up with conclusions such as 'this is a blood line issue'. In other words, the problem is generation and it is within your family blood. In other words, you didnt do anything wrong its just that you were born into this.

This further explains that if some things can be passed down generations through the blood, then some things can be passed down spiritually through the bloodline. Either way, this is something that families have to look at and I think for singles, this has to be visited and dealt with before getting married, this helps in safeguarding the longevity of the marriages. As often if these things are not dealt with they can come back years down the track to tear marriages apart. Whatever your circumstance, I hope this article will enable you to do your due diligence to the person you want to marry and also of course your own set of affairs.

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