Is Your Lover More Like a Brother?

Has the excitement faded from a once hot love affair? Has the passing of time slowed your romance to turtle speed? Has your lover somehow transformed into your brother? If you answered yes to any to these questions, you need to read this.

The passing of time can turn a once fulfilling romance into a non-existent one. Here are just a few reasons why this can happens:

1. Children enter the relationship. Your mother role is now more important than the hot babe role. Your sex life, romance and own needs get pushed somewhere in a closet never to be seen again, until your children some day move out. Right? Well, you can change this now, no need to have to wait 20 years to regain your romantic side.

2. Arguments with your lover. Whether it's money, the kids, where you live, etc. we all have arguments with our partners. The trick is to not let it build up. OK, how do you do this. First, never dwell on things, you can't change things you can't control, so let them go. Next, stop trying to read your partner's mind. Mind reading causes lots of unnecessary arguments. And lastly, always treat him the way you want to be treated. He'll soon follow in your steps and do the same.

3. Self-esteem. Maybe you or your partner haven't been feeling good about yourself, maybe you've gained weight or let yourself go. The first thing you need to do is look at yourself in the mirror and say, "What can I change right now?" Even the smallest step can help you feel better and move you to the next level.

4. You just don't know how to be romantically involved. If it's embarrassing for you to show your love, it's been so long you just can't remember how, or if you're unsure what your partner wants and needs keep reading, because I'm going to give you some great tips.

Now, here are some things you can do to kick start your romance again.

1. First, it's very important to have alone time. Date night is a great way to achieve this. Plan an evening at least twice a month (once a week is even better) for just you and your partner. No kids, no work and no chores. Go out for the evening or stay in, whatever you feel you want to do. Or, mix it up and go out one time and plan an evening home the next time. The point is to talk about each other, learn about each other and have fun together. Don't bring up work, bills, kids or any other hot topic which could blow the evening.

2. Buy yourself some helpers. Lingerie is a great place to start. It makes you feel beautiful and sexy even when a few minutes ago you felt terrible and maybe even ugly. Go to http://www.Romantic-Secrets.com, grab a few romantic items such as romantic music, beautiful rose petals, exquisite flameless candles and tons of great romantic ideas. These items are awesome romantic evening starters. There's also a great game called An Enchanting Evening(TM) that will help start conversation again. In this game you are asked questions such as, "What can your partner say or do that will make you feel especially romantic?" and, "Imagine you're a famous fashion designer - in what colors would you dress your partner?" As the game is played the questions get a little more physical, but in very good taste.

3. If you're ready to just jump right back into things, maybe a massage is what you would like to have. I'd suggest Scented Massage Oil and a heart massager. There are also kits available with everything you need inside. Oodles of products to choose from and something for every taste. Just click on the link and you'll soon be romancing again.

4. Just remember, romance doesn't always come easily to everyone all the time. If it did, there wouldn't be so many romance product available today. Just fake it till you make it!

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