Dare to Love
Dare to Love By Richard Sizemore
Love is something we all strive for in our daily lives. I personally love a lot of things, some are seen and others are unseen. I love the smell of a fresh ground coffee beans and the aroma of brewing coffee. I love waking up next to my wife. And, I love the sight of a squirrel that lives outside my front door. I love it when the squirrel cautiously approaches a peanut that I placed on the ground. It approaches very slowly, looking all around to make sure that that the old stray tomcat is not hiding in the bushes waiting for a sneak attack. The squirrel knows that life is dangerous and it’s taking a calculated risk in approaching that peanut in the open. But that squirrel takes it, quickly running up the nearby palm tree for safety. He love’s those peanuts, especially the lightly salted ones. If that squirrel refused to take a risk, he would never know how much he loves peanuts and that would be a pretty boring life, even for a squirrel.
Life is full of risks, some are relatively easy to spot and some are not. Being able to find love is not something that you find by reading a book. Finding love often requires some risk on your part. If love was easy to find, everyone would have it. Some people look for unconditional love, but we know that is often unrealistic. Love requires you to give more than you take. Many people today want everything in an instant. You can’t snap your fingers and have instant love. It requires you to nurture it along. I find that if you make an effect to show love to those around you in everyday life, it will come back to you tenfold. How hard is it to say to a co-worker, “I really appreciate your hard work”… How hard is it to say to your wife, “I love you and I appreciate you making a fresh pot of coffee this morning”. Some people think these deeds aren’t important, but they are. Collectively, they make a huge difference in your life. Kind words and actual kind deeds to others will help you improve your relationships with others. By giving without expecting a lot in return is something that is very difficult for some, but it will bring you great rewards as long as you do it very wisely. When you’re with someone who doesn’t appreciate what you give, then you need to reevaluate your current relationship.
I’m a man and I don’t quite understand women all the time, but I do know that my wife loves me, but it is not unconditional. She knows that I love her and that I would do just about anything for her. She understands that I love her even when she is in a bad mood or is having a rough day. She knows I love her when she asks me if her hair looks funky and I tell her the truth. But, I have also found that it’s a lot safer to avoid providing too much information especially if it is anything other than positive. People love being around others who have positive attitudes. Positive attitudes inspire others to do the same.
One of the most difficult things to experience is being rejected by someone who you feel is perfect for you. Life is not perfect for anyone, but it has rewards that are unlimited for those who dare to dream. It hurts to discover someone you love doesn’t reciprocate. Just because you give love does not always mean you receive it.
When someone does not reciprocate your love for them, you should never feel sorry for yourself or to dislike them for whatever reason. That ole squirrel does not hate the neighborhood tomcat. But the squirrel knows that given the chance, the tomcat will eat him. For this reason, the squirrel knows that it’s very unwise to mindlessly roam the neighborhood looking for food. The squirrel does not hate the cat because it knows that he is just doing what cats do. When you’re ending an ongoing relationship for whatever reason, you will learn from it and that is good. The rewards are endless for those who are wise enough to learn from their mistakes. Dare to love, but use your heart and intuition to limit your risk.
In conclusion, you can dare to love, but limit your personal risk by setting high standards for yourself. The little squirrel took a calculated risk and received what it desired. It’s often easy to settle for someone who does not meet your needs. People attract what they seek, so it’s really important what you project. Don’t settle for someone you know will never meet your needs by thinking you can mold them into something better. You should always set your standards high. You will enjoy all of the rewards that you expect and deserve. By having faith in yourself and having patience, you will attract whatever you desire.
About the Author
Richard Sizemore is 49 years young and I have an interest in writing short stories. I was inspired to write “Dare to Love” by my wife. The words written are life experiences and come from the heart. My first book, “Sand in Your Boots” is a work in progress. It’s a book about a young woman who returns from war and travels coast to coast on her motorcycle to honor her helicopter crew who died in combat. On her journey, she visits the families of her fallen friends. It’s an uplifting story about the human spirit and I think it’s a good story and my friends like the premise.
I work in the Telecommunications field and live and work primarily in Los Angeles California. I enjoy grinding my own coffee beans and enjoying the smile on my wife’s face when she takes her first sip in the morning. She has inspired me to be creative and I have found that writing stories is a great outlet. Everyone needs a creative outlet and I have tried painting, flying, motorcycles, traveling and photography, but writing is my favorite creative outlet at this time.
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