Unbelievable isnt it? - Get married at 70 years

Ronald Eden did the unthinkable he got married. So what” so great about that ? His age is an unbelievable 70 years. Shocked, stunned, fumbling for words? Aren’t you?. Ronald married Sara, a beautiful waitress. Now for the other shocker…, she is just 35. No. Ronald is not very rich. He owns a townhouse in London and is a retired civil servant. So Sara is not a gold digger. Says Sara” Mom “ Except for a lovely house, some antique furniture and old world charm, I fail to see what she saw in him.” Sara is a beautiful articulate woman with a taste for good food. She has worked as a waitress for almost 8 years for the upper end restaurant called “ The Upper Crust”. So is this a “Platonic Relationship” – meaning no sex - we are only friends kind of relationship.No, Ronald is not into those no- sex trophy relationships. It is actually a fully consummated marriage. Ronald has fully consummated the marriage and according to Sara is better in bed than most men half his age. Sex with him is like experiencing heaven according to her and he is in the mood for sex anytime, as if he is a teenager. Ronald has not told Sara about his history of erectile dysfunction, but she does know that he pops a Cialis tablet regularly to get a strong hard erection. No wonder he is so good in bed.Horny old broads, dirty old men. These commonly used terms speak volumes about how society views older people who are interested in sex. Experts say such derogatory labels reflect a deep level of discomfort in our youth-oriented culture with the idea that seniors are sexually active. Sex is identified with reproduction, youthful attractiveness, and power -- and most young and even middle-aged people do not want to confront the inevitability of growing old.So sexual intimacy among senior citizens is a subject that people don't talk about much. The silence, say experts, allows misconceptions to flourish -- including the widespread assumption that seniors lose interest in sex and are, or should be, asexual. But armed with a spate of recent studies that help dispel the myth that older people don't have sex or enjoy it, experts say the negative stereotypes couldn't be farther from the truth."There is no age limit on sexuality and sexual activity according to experts. While the frequency or ability to perform sexually will generally decline modestly as seniors experience the normal physiological changes that accompany aging, reports show that the majority of men and women between the ages of 50 and 80 are still enthusiastic about sex and intimacy."Use it or lose it," says geriatrics expert Walter M. Bortz, 70, author of three books on healthy aging as well as several studies on seniors' sexuality. Dr. Bortz, a professor at Stanford Medical School, is past president of the American Geriatrics Society and co-chair of the American Medical Association” Task Force on Aging. "If you stay interested, stay healthy, stay off medications, and have a good mate, then you can have good sex all the way to the end of life," he says.A Duke University study shows that some 20 percent of people over 65 have sex lives that are better than ever before, he adds. And although not everyone wants or needs an active sex life, many people continue to be sexual all their lives. "There” strong data all over: It” a matter of survival," says Dr. Bortz. "People that have sex live longer. Married people live longer. People need people. The more intimate the connection, the more powerful the effects."One advantage of growing older is that personal relationships can take on increased importance as children and careers take a backseat. Seniors can devote more time and energy to improving their love lives. And while some seniors may be forced to give up strenuous sports, sex is a physical pleasure many older people readily enjoy.A clear majority of men and women age 45 and up say a satisfying sexual relationship is important to the quality of life, according to a 1999 survey. Among 45- to 59-year-olds with sexual partners, some 63 percent said they had sexual intercourse once a week or more. Among 60- to 74-year-olds, 30 percent of men and 24 percent of women have sex at least once a week, as did more than a quarter of those 75 or older.A 1998 survey conducted by the National Council on the Aging (NCOA) in the United Satates found that nearly half of all Americans age 60 or over have sex at least once a month and that nearly half also wanted to have sex more frequently. Another finding: people find their mates more physically attractive over time.As for making love, it just gets better with age, according to Cornelia Spindel, 75, who married her husband Gerald when she was 72. They met when Gerry Spindel took his wife, who was dying of Alzheimer”, to a kosher nutrition program where Cornelia, a widow, worked as a volunteer. The two gradually became close friends, and after his wife” death, became intimate. When Gerald proposed, she accepted with pleasure. Now, Cornelia says, "We feel like young lovers or newlyweds. I felt like I was able to make love better when I was 30 than when I was 20, and now I have a whole lifetime of experience."Both men and women can expect normal physiological changes as they age that may affect the way they experience sex. Experts say these changes are not usually a barrier to enjoying a healthy sex life, but couples may have to take more time for arousal.Postmenopausal women, for example, have lower levels of the hormone estrogen, which in turn decreases vaginal lubrication and elasticity. In many cases, dryness can be relieved by something as simple as using a water-based lubricant like KY Jelly. Doctors can offer other remedies for more difficult cases.Men may suffer from impotence or have more difficulty achieving and sustaining erections as their blood circulation slows and testosterone levels decrease. Impotence is also more prevalent in men who have a history of heart disease, hypertension, or diabetes.Now, however, Viagra (sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil) has aided many older men who weren't helped by other treatments as they had erectile dysfunction. It is the condition characterized by an inability to ensure or sustain an erection for satifactory sexual intercourse.Studies show that only a fraction of the seniors who could be treated for sexual problems actually seek medical help. That” too bad, experts say, because even serious medical conditions need not prevent elders from having a satisfying sex life. Seniors should see a physician if they've lost interest in sex or are having sexual difficulties. Some sedatives, most antidepressants, excessive alcohol, and some prescription drugs have side effects that interfere with sex; a doctor can help adjust medication or set guidelines on alcohol intake. Illnesses, disabilities, and surgeries can also affect sexuality, but in general, even disease need not interfere with sexual expression.For men, "biology or hydraulics" is the biggest impediment to sex later in life, says most doctors. Despite these challenges, Ronald has overcome those odds and has even got married at the age of 70. Clearly he is in the best of sexual health. Cheers to him and Sara, for a long and sexually satisfying married life.

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