Good Conversation Questions - What a Joke!

Let's begin at the beginning - Are prearranged topics for conversations really of any value to you ... Do they work?

How about starting by looking at you If you are a 'shy 'person â and your overriding question is, "How do I talk to people I don't know?" Here is the good news:

There is nothing to worry about - We'll cover you -

You see, most of the people you will meet are good friendly folks. The problem is that shy people have such lofty standards that they begin by being frustrated at themselves. While lofty standards are good for our personal growth, don't set them so high for yourselves in communicating with people - that you can never meet them.

Just remember that your goal in social discourse (Ain't that a grand phrase?) is just to be relaxed and friendly yourself. You don't have to demand a lot of yourself. I know (I'll bet you are asking "How does this guy know) that you are a very fine person, and people would love to meet you.

Remember, by definition, conversation goes both ways. Why do you have to remember that? Well, too often people hesitate to talk about themselves. They think that by doing so it is impolite. So, here is a fine line:

* Be open and talkative * Don't be asking too many questions about them non-stop such as:

o What do you do o Where do you work o Where are you from o What hobbies do you have

You don't want them to be expecting a light being shined (sp?) in their eyes while you are asking question after question. That is not cool!

Here are a few Small Talk Guides:

* Don't be too intrusive * Be Authentic - Don't try to be something you are not * Be able to talk about many things

You know, that leads to another great topic ... 'Just how interesting are YOU? 'Bet you thought I would never ask that, didn't you?

If you only use the newspaper to line your parakeet page, and you are too embroiled with 'Survivor 'or 'American Idol 'to have much interest in anything else than all the tips in the world won't help. You may be so boring that I wouldn't want to visit with you either.

Are you interested in lots of things? Are you interested in people in general? Do you want to meet interesting people? If you do, then BE INTERESTING!

One thing is certain - there is always a tremendous amount of news being reported on many subjects. Be aware of some of it! So, Two Rules:

1. To meet an interesting person - you should be an interesting person - and you can be so easily (interesting, involved, and genuine) 2. Be aware that words are like carpenter tools; The right combination of tools get the job done.

There are few skills that have the potential to change your life so completely as Learning the Art of Conversation. Don't take a short cut -and short change yourself.

Change your life - and be cool and confident in any situation.

Comments? Questions? Email Here

© HowtoAdvice.com

How to Advice .com