Why Women Put Up With Less In Love, Later In Life
When you're young all you really care about is that a guy makes you feel butterflies in your stomach and that you find him attractive. But, eventually you learn that, contrary to the popular song, you actually need much more than love for a relationship to stay afloat.
He just started a business
This can be such an attractive quality in a man--entrepreneurialism. But, try to be in a relationship with enough new business owners and you'll discover they are highly anxious and distracted people. My friend fell head over heels for a voice coach just as he was starting his own singing academy where he'd hire multiple singing teachers to give singing lessons. They had a blast on their first date but then he barely called her and when she'd see him his mind just seemed elsewhere or he'd be checking his email constantly. That was the last time she started a relationship with somebody who'd just started a business.
He's newly single
To our own demise, in our twenties we are attracted to guys who just got out of relationships. We want to take on the challenge of winning a guy's affections that are still elsewhere, and we just like dating guys who are "broken." We find it exciting. As you get older you find that, trying to be with someone who just broke up with another girlfriend is absolutely exhausting, that the guy is unable to really give anything to you and that he's probably super needy. Never a good thing.
He detests his job
Who doesn't in their early twenties? You're typically an intern, an assistant, working in a mailroom or have a totally entry-level position where you get pushed around and don't get to do any of the fun stuff. But, if a guy is still trash talking his work in his 30's, it just makes you ask why he didn't have the guts or drive to do something about it by now. It honestly just makes him look A) Like a major whiner and/or B) Unambitious.
He calls sporadically
In your early twenties, you still don't understand the concept of men who are "bad for you." All that matters to you is that you're attracted to the guy and he makes you excited. If he does that, you'll let him get away with just about anything. So, if he only calls every two weeks and says, "Sorry, been busy" you say, "That's okay!" and jump in his car (or bed). As you get older and your life gets hectic, you learn that you make time for the people you really want to see. You don't buy the "Sorry, got caught up with work" line from men any longer.
About the Author
Vera Esther writes about topics in healthy living, relationships and travel. Her articles have appeared in dozens of publications and titles have ranged from "Is your date addicted to love?" to "Let your computer teach you to sing" (a review of the interactive site http://www.thesingingzone.com/ )
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