How To Find That Glimpse Of Hope When Everything Seems Lost

Challenges are thrown at us constantly in life and they can be devasting. We need to find a way to tackle these situations even though it can seem like an impossible task or we don't feel we have the strength do do it. It's almost insulting to tell someone who is desperate to be calm and patient but without this things will keep getting worse. We must not consume our lives playing the victim because there will be no way out so we must fight back.

Firstly we need to think clearly about what is actually happening. It will be impossible to do this unless we get out of victim mode. Victim mode will make things worse. We will constantly keep asking why is this happening and what have we done in our lives to deserve this. We will bask in our despair and keep asking why this is happening to us and in the meantime we will also push our friends and family away by wallowing and not taking any sort of action.. Funnily enough they will have answers but because we are playing the victim we won't be in a position to accept advice. The worst case scenario is that we will lose those who are close to us making us feel even worse and thus plunging into the deepest depths of despair.

It's important to tackle each challenge one at a time. Make a list of everything that is wrong which will be depressing but it will bring a tiny piece of clarity. Then we must put our challenges in order by putting the smallest things first. It must be done in this order because the small things are probably not that bad and the feeling of crossing them off the list will help you regain a tiny fraction of hope. Keep this list somewhere where you see it all the time. It won't be a constant reminder making you feel bad but a reminder that you are doing something about the challenges you are facing. Let's face it, without the list you would be consumed with all the challenges merged into one which would actually make you feel worse.

The unconditional love from our friends and family is what we need to help. If you talk clearly without playing the victim and show that you are doing your best to tackle these problems they will want to help you. What you don't want is pity so you can wallow in your situation and your friends and family don't want to pity you but help you.

Find a place where you can give yourself 15 minutes in the morning and in the evening where you won't be disturbed and go through the list. Listen to your breathing and be grateful that you are alive and then listen to the sounds around you. Say to yourself I'm not going to let these challenges destroy me. Let yourself be angry but the anger must be strong and in a fight back manner so you are showing the world you are not going to be brought down in this way. Do this everyday and see the strength you can muster up and hit those challenges one by one. Most importantly believe that there are better things to come and if you can do this you will climb out much stronger with a sense of pride and respect for yourself.

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