Sharpen Your Communication Skills First

Do you know why some people climb the career ladder quicker than others?Two academicians that I knew said its due to their people or communication skills.Its not about golf, its not about partying, its not about giving gifts, its not about being around the right people, its bigger than those things.Its about how you treat and handle people including how you talk to them and how you think of yourself that you want them to hear. We like to receive gift and usually will feel grateful to the person who has given the gift to us.Let say someone give you a gift and then talk about how thoughtful he is, you should be thankful, this is the most expensive gift that he has bought and frankly he’ll be perplexed if you did not return in kind.How would you feel? Want to give back the present?Or you are an avid golfer and always making fun of people who missed their putt. I don't think next time you'll be invited unless you're the boss.Who would you prefer, a person who laughs every time you miss or someone who offers to teach and show you how you may hit the ball during the next putt?We don’t want to be reminded how stupid we are or how unskilled we are so many times.Now, let us concentrate on one aspect of the communication skills, which is having an on-going conversation.There are some people that felt conversation is anything at all that come out from the mouth. Have you ever been around someone whom you really dread when they starts to say something?You felt powerless sitting or standing beside that person, feeling guilty not being able to stop his rambling and only nodding in total agreement to his every words.So before you start holding the golf club or going to party or giving gifts or starting to be around the right people, polished you conversational skill first.Its not hard, but needs training, old habit dies hard. Among the important things in conversational skill are, knowing what to say, how to say it and when to say it.At first you can practice talking to a person whom you trust and feel comfortable with. This person should also be confident enough to give negative feedback to you when she didn’t like hearing what you said. You can choose to argue what you’ve said is acceptable, but the probability is that any other person will have the same opinion towards the sentence you’ve used.If what you said is always nice to be heard than congratulation to you, people will flock around you when you speak. Otherwise you should be training more and rephrasing your sentences in other words and maybe your intonation also needs change. There are those people who converse using “giving instruction” intonation. These type of people really makes me want to excuse myself quickly.Another important skill is, you should be able to get into the flow of conversation and unless you're a defense lawyer at a court, in a debating team or any such wonderful situation. It would be better for you not to be antagonistic. And mind you its hard to change people opinion. When did you ever have change other people opinion using just logical argument?

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