Dealing With Visitors After Your Baby Is Born
I come from an extremely large family and there are so many cousins, aunts, uncles and others in our family that it is difficult to keep track of everyone. In fact, there are dozens of children and babies in our family, and I shamefully admit that sometimes I even forget the names of many of the kids. However, having a big family like this has a ton of advantages, and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. But the thing is, whenever you are expecting a child of your own, there are going to be a lot of people who want to see your newborn, and want to visit with you. Every person who has ever had a baby knows that this can be quite an annoyance in the beginning, and while some family members know to leave you alone for the first few days, others just can't seem to help themselves.
Whenever our daughter was born, many people naturally wanted to see her from our family, but we asked that people respect our wishes and not come visit until we told them to. The problem was, that we had so many people in our family, and also friends as well, that not everybody got the message. My wife and I barely got any sleep when we first brought our daughter home, and we found ourselves walking around like zombies, having to entertain people who we really wished were not there in the first place. This made us build up a lot of animosity whenever people came over to visit in the first several days, but you can learn a lot from our mistakes.
The biggest mistake we made is that there was no way we could expect everybody to get the message that we didn't want to be bothered at first, and when people showed up, we should have politely told him that we were not up for visits just yet. Instead, we invited people in and did our best to try and entertain them, and act pleasant. But of course we were steaming inside and wanted them to leave. However, there was no way they could possibly know what we were feeling, and we should have voiced how we actually felt. This is why I suggest to any new parents that should not be afraid to voice how you feel, and turn people away when they show up unexpectedly. Any reasonable person will understand your situation, and gladly come back at a later time.
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William is a freelance writer living in Kitchener. He currently publishes a helpful baby product site http://babydollstroller.net/
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