How To Deal With Flakes
I am a judgment broker. It's not an easy job, however my work is fun and done entirely over the internet. My phone and fax are via the internet too. I work with many great people, and also more flakes than most people.
Starting a business during tough economic times has taught me much more than starting businesses during boom times. One must work much harder now than the previous decade. It is more important now than ever before to recognize and prevent flakes from messing up your day or your business.
I define a flake as someone who says or writes that they will do something, and then does not do it. There is a valuable quality in human beings (or any entities) to do what they say they will do. Perhaps because of a lifetime of being exposed to mostly media and TV, some are not aware they are known as being a flake.
The secret to not letting flakes bother you is to lose attachment to anything happening in the world. As much as possible, let whatever happens be ok with you. That is harder to do, than it is to write or say. However, it's always worth striving toward the goal of concentrating on what you do, not what the world does.
When someone tells me that they are going to do something, I simply add one year to when I count on them to do what they said. Then I move toward doing something that either must be done, or I wish to do, I always try to combine them both, and I usually end up doing whatever I want.
Something will respond soon. Maybe someone was a flake, or perhaps they were busy, or perhaps their computer is broken, or perhaps they are on vacation. It's not worth worrying about why anyone or anything is not responding, just move towards something else, and wait for the world to spin around some more.
If you get an email, and it's not spam, you have an obligation of some kind to the sender. Not ever replying to the email at your convenience is being a flake. If you say you will pick someone up at the airport and do not, you are a flake. Flakes don't return calls and don't respond to letters either.
The correct way to deal with flakes is to ignore them. The wrong way to deal with flakes is to keep giving then opportunities to flake on you. When someone ignores your email, send them perhaps one more email, then forget about it - or give them a call, if the situation requires it.
Sometime people flake because they do not like you, or they have a problem, or they are busy. It is better to move on, then to dwell on why an entity is flaking on you. Again - do something constructive, fun, or both.
When the world is flaking out, do something else - pull weeds, meditate, watch TV, go shopping, etc. Wait for the world to spin around until something comes up - it always does. Success is a journey, not a destination.
By actively having a goal of not being a flake, you will find more success in all areas of your life and your business.
About the Author
Mark D. Shapiro - Judgment Broker - Free leads for Judgment Enforcers and contingency collection attorneys.
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