Love After College
Everything seems perfect. You're about to graduate. You've got a job lined up and a boyfriend you love. You appear to be all set up for a seamless transition into the world of being a "grownup." But, news flash: that boyfriend of yours might cause you the biggest anxiety of all. Here's why.
It's just the two of you
In college you lived with at least 4 people at a time, stepped out of your dorm or apartment to be greeted with dozens of people you knew just walking down the street and had to choose between multiple parties a night. When the dorm days are over, you get a real place with a manageable one other person in a brand new neighborhood, far from your beloved campus and hundreds of faces you recognize. What does this mean? In school, you and your boyfriend probably had to work to just be alone without tons of friends around, but now you'll have to work to have others around! You will get a very clear perspective on how much you actually like one another.
You actually need those zzz's
In college you scheduled your classes to be no earlier than 10 am, you didn't really have to attend all of them and if you did, it was okay if you fell asleep in the back row. So, nothing was affected when you'd stay up til 4 am hanging out and drinking, and slept until noon the next day. When you have to be up at 7 am to go to work, hanging out til 3 am isn't really an option anymore. My friend was really surprised by this dynamic because, since she graduated from music school and went on to become a voice coach, she was able to schedule singing lessons for whatever time she wanted. Meanwhile, her boyfriend found himself in a traditional office job and was asleep early every night. Never would she have guessed that her desire to help people learn to sing would lead to the demise of her relationship.
Money can't buy you love
But literally, the activities you used to bond over--group ski trips, date nights, bottles of alcohol--those cost money. Money that might not be available now. In school, your mom and dad probably footed the essential bills like rent and groceries and just gave you some money for fun stuff. Maybe you didn't get to spend crazy amounts of money but you were not in the habit of watching every dollar for fear of not paying your rent or internet bill at the end of the month. Now that weekend trip might put you in debt and you have to worry about every dollar you spend.
About the Author
Vera Esther covers topics in luxury living, healthy habits and relationships. Her articles and blog posts have been published on dozens of websites and her unique titles such as "How to Tell If You're A Dating Addict" and "Improve Your Voice With Your Computer" (an article about the interactive site http://www.thesingingzone.com/ ) have grabbed the attention of various audiences.
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