Save My Marriage - Rekindle The Attraction You Had For Each Other
Once upon a time you and your wife fell in love an got married. You vowed to love each other forever. But things did not go as planned and now your marriage is in danger. Not only are you are facing the financial expense of divorce but also the detrimental long term effects on your emotional, psychological and physical health. And that is not to talk about the added effects a marriage break up has on your children and wider family and friends. But there is good news. You can revive the attraction for each other and save your marriage.
How?, you may ask. Well it is relatively simple. No matter how bad things have gotten; regardless of how disinterested your wife might be; even if one of you has cheated; no matter if you're already separated you can rediscover the attraction for each other and save your marriage. And not just save it, but super-charge it with more love, passion, fun, and excitement than ever before. And it is good to know that you can do this without spending a dollar on marriage counselling or a divorce attorney.
Rather than solve problems, the secret is to build attraction. You need to build so much heat and passion in your wife that she is crazy in love with you again.
The Wikipedia definition of attraction is:
"Interpersonal attraction is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships…….. Interpersonal attraction is related to how much we like, dislike, or hate someone. It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation…………. Repulsion is also a factor in the process of interpersonal attraction, one's conception of attraction to another can vary from extreme attraction to extreme repulsion."
According to Rowland Miller's Intimate Relationships text, the propinquity effect can be defined as: "the more we see and interact with a person, the more likely he or she is to become our friend or sexual partner."
Studies about attraction indicate that people are strongly attracted to people who look like themselves in physical and social appearance - "birds of a feather flock together" is a common English idiom. Similarity can present in two ways. 1) Actual which is self-serving and leads to friendship, and 2) Perceived which is relationship serving and leads to a romantic relationship.
On the contrary complementary attractions appeal to opposites - another common idiom is "opposites attract". According to Markey and Markey we are attracted to people who complement to us because this allows us to maintain our preferred style of behaviour.
The law of attraction goes back to the times of Adam and Eve. The evolutionary theory of attraction hypothesises that the primary attraction of a male to a female is linked to fertility and that the primary attraction of a female to a male is linked to his capacity to provide and protect. Considering that one primary purpose of conjugal and romantic relationships is reproduction, then the above is probably true. Woman bear the offspring and the man ensures that the offspring is provided for and protected.
Sex drive exists purely to ensure that the human race reproduces and lives on. Female sex drive then is all about reproduction and survival and men are genetically programmed to be the leaders and protectors. Taking into account these facts discussed above it is obvious that women are programmed on a biological level to be attracted to strong capable men who can provide for them and protect them. Most women are not even aware of this need as it is on a subconscious level.
Another thing to be aware of is that many women are emotional beings and many of their decisions are based on emotion rather than logic. And this is explains why problem solving procedures such as apologizing, discussing, compromising, grovelling or begging are not successful. Communicating your way out of divorce will not work either, all it does is kill the attraction she has for you.
You can use this information to your advantage. Now that you have been made conscious of the secret concerning female programming you can work towards rekindling the attraction and the passion in your marriage.
The secret to how to do this can be found in leadership. As discussed before women are attracted to men who have the natural qualities of an amazing leader. If you become that leader she is subconsciously looking for she'll be so attracted to you that she'll do anything to make you happy. You will rediscover the attraction for each other and save your marriage.
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