Dating Online Tips : How to Handle Rejection (part 1)

Dating Online is not always successful. Fairy tales and love stories are always buttering things up and are full of exaggerated, unrequited love. One things for sure, there are people who will befriend us, and others who will not.

The fact is, not everyone will find Mr. Perfect. there’s no such thing as a perfect man. Just as we do not accept every man who comes along as Mr. Right, so also in the case of men, what we are may not be what they are seeking. Rejection is only a natural part of the dating scene. This being so “rejection” must be accepted as integral to dating and in the right spirit.

Here some Easy steps that will help us cure rejection are:

· First admit that you are scared. And that you need to deal with the situation.

· Quantify the fear/shyness/self-doubt. Try and find out on a scale of 1-10 where your apprehensions stand.

· Confront the worst thing that could happen. Be it rejection, humiliation, or being made a fool of. Emotional or physical hurt is a part of loving.

· Cope with it in an organized and methodical way—say I am not going to let my mind/feelings pull me down. I am out to conquer.

· Join a support group. Go for counseling and deal with the situation.

· Don’t be ashamed or inhibited to discuss your true feelings with family/friends /others in a similar situation.

· Use all available resources to conquer fear/self doubt.

· Set ego aside and stop believing “I am god’s gift to men.”

Handling heartbreak is not easy you need to gather yourself together and move on. Here are a few ways you can cope:

· Get it out of your system. Don’t let emotions be bottled up inside and turn into resentment and bitterness.

· Focus on everyday activities. Take one step at a time. Let the future take care of itself.

· Give yourself space and time to heal. The biggest mistake would be to plunge in at once into another relationship.

· Take a deep breath and say I am going to look forward.

· Be positive, think happy thoughts, fill you day with activities and people so that you have no time to brood.

· Don’t abandon hope –perhaps the man who rejected you was not the ideal man for you.

· Early rejection is better than heartbreak.

· Let not rejection become a fear be strong convince yourself, “I am a wonderful person.”

· Join new interests or activities. Many hobbies are such that they are popular, which means you stand a good chance of making many friends.

Rejection hurts and makes one sad but misery will not get you anywhere—you must move on. I know it is hard as most women are vulnerable and suffer from the ‘pain’ of rejection.

One way to handle the situation is to stop thinking less of yourself —being critical and seeking approval. This makes us open to rejection and hurt.

Accept this is what I am and I am proud of who I am.

Never blame yourself for being rejected. In fact try and think “too bad for him” he lost a wonderful caring woman.

Work out a rejection contingency plan--- believe me rejection can be a blessing in disguise.

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