Managing your anger with hypnotherapy

Anger is an emotion which arises in response to any event which we may interpret as crossing our boundaries and attacking. We respond with anger when we feel that we need to defend ourselves physically, our family members or our country, our property, our values and even our entitlements. Anger is the response to attack when we can lose something, but also when we do not receive what we feel we deserve.

Anger is a prompt for attack as the best defense; the emotion is associated with biological changes in the body as the body prepares for combat, the stress enzymes are released, the blood pressure rises, the heart beats quicker, and we may feel hot and even start shaking. The biological changes can be very rapid when the strong anger arises, and it can quickly turn into a violent rage without much thinking. Sometimes the opposite happens, we mentally block the prolonged frustration and anger and the biological changes like high blood pressure and stress enzymes become permanent, leading to a serious health problems.

Anger is most often a secondary emotion, caused by fear, insecurity, low confidence, hurt and pain. When you are confident and secure, you do not need to respond with anger to critics or judgments. The words or actions of other people do not affect you when your self-esteem is strong, your feel your worth and you treat critics as getting a feedback and good tips to improve. Yes, when you are confident and open, you are grateful for critics, as it helps you to grow and learn.

Similarly, when we hold hurt and pain in our hearts, we are afraid of more hurt and pain, and we respond with anger when we feel that it may happen again. It is also easier to hold onto anger, because it makes us stronger to be angry than hurt and sad, and the old anger is revoked at any situation which reminds us of the old hurt. Those connections are on the subconscious level, very often not logical, difficult to trace.

We are also angry when we are denied the fulfillment of our desires. Some people are carrying anger and resentment from their younger years. Life is a challenge and has many needs. Baby cries with anger when it is hungry; little child will be angry when her sister has more attention from parents. Having more, accumulating goods, receiving awards etc makes us feel secure and important, and stronger. So again, the desires, the need to receive comes from basic insecurities and low confidence. The unreasonable anger when somebody receives more has also usually roots in the past. When we are free from this kind of desire, the need to grasp, the need to be special, the need to be better than others or have more, we are free not only from this sort of anger, we are free to use or potential to achieve more.

And there is also the primary anger, just a survival tool, which prompts us to action when we are in real danger, or there is a real danger to others, or our basic values are attacked. This kind of anger allows us to overcome the paralyzing fear so we can stand up for ourselves and defend our basic existence.

Anger management is about acknowledging and expressing your anger in an acceptable way. Uncontrolled anger creates problems, makes relationships difficult, can be damaging for us and for our surrounding, as it easily leads to abusive words or acts of violence, and even to the jail sentence. Denying the anger and suppressing it builds the pressure and leads to uncontrolled eruption when we cannot stand it anymore. It also affects health and brings other emotions, like guilt when we condemn ourselves for anger. It is better to express anger in a respectful way.

Anger management is also about understanding your anger and being able to prevent it in the first place by knowing the triggers and finding the ways to solve the situation before the anger arises. We can train ourselves to stay rational instead of letting the anger blind us out, so we can assess the situation and realize that we overact, that the threat is not real. We can learn relaxation techniques, as it is rather difficult to become angry when you are totally relaxed. We can learn many other ways to deal with strong emotions.

Hypnotherapy is the best tool for anger management, because it allows you to access your internal resources to find the best solutions to manage your anger. You can also implement your solutions in hypnosis and rehearse the challenging situations, still in hypnosis. This way the solutions are working on both conscious and subconscious levels, so it is like the automatic habit change. With hypnotherapy and some NLP techniques performed in hypnosis, we can also neutralize the triggers, so you will be much calmer in the situations which would normally bring anger.

Hypnotherapy also allows you to understand you anger better, by going not only to the current situations which bring anger, but also to the original events which are the reasons for the triggers. These events are usually forgotten, buried deep in subconscious mind. We can access them while in deep hypnosis and we can change the beliefs and perceptions of the past, because we can see it now with reason, through the adult eyes, not through the eyes of a frightened child. Once this is done, the anger dissolves, as the old triggers become neutral.

And we can do even more, much more than just managing the anger, we can create the real miracles in hypnosis. Hypnotherapy will help you to resolve the real reasons for anger, depression, anxiety and fear, insecurity, low confidence, hurt and pain or deep sadness. All those underlying emotions are often hidden deep in the subconscious mind and are difficult to trace. With hypnotherapy, we can access the subconscious mind and solve the anger by dealing with and letting go the causes of underlying emotions. As a result, we are more confident, relaxed, stronger and happier, so we do not need to be angry anymore.

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