Turning a Negative Experience Into A Positive One
by Kristi Patrice Carter, J.D.
Getting fired from a position can be a very disheartening and mind-blowing experience. Maybe you saw it coming and maybe you didn't. Maybe you were to blame or maybe it wasn't your fault at all. However, the truth of the matter is that millions of people (just like you) get fired every single day and although it hurts them just the same, they learn from the experience and go out and find even better positions than they previously had. So, how can you turn that negative experience into a positive one? By following these proven tips, that's how.
- Come to terms with your termination. Remember that it is completely normal to feel a sense of loss and sorrow and to worry what the future holds. Your feelings are valid and should not be discounted. Maybe you're worried that you will experience financial hardship, that you won't find a new job right away, or that your reputation will suffer. These are all normal concerns and instead of hiding from them, address them head on and figure out how you will deal with them. For example, if you're worried about finances, evaluate your account statements and figure out how to make it until you find a new job. Maybe you could work for a temporary agency. Maybe you could exhaust your savings or maybe you could ask a family or friend for a loan to tie you over. The important thing is that you deal with your fears immediately.
- Learn from this experience. Although it's important to come to terms with what you've experienced, its also important to learn from the experience. Yes, it's true that you've been fired and you are dealing with your grief. However, you must realize that your life is not over and something bigger and better is out there for the taking. The key is to be positive about your experience and learn from it. You can accomplish this by honestly evaluating your situation, taking responsibility for your actions that led to the termination and learning from them. For example, were you fired for always being late or for not finishing projects on time? If so, maybe now is the time for you to take a time management class and learn to effectively manage projects and meet short and long-term goals. Then, when you find a new job, you can utilize your newly acquired skills and ensure that this situation never happens to you again.
- Don't be embarrassed. As previously stated, millions of people lose their jobs every single day for various reasons. Therefore, you have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, if you can muster up enough courage to hold your head up high and demonstrate that although your job was terminated that you are a better person because of it, then you will definitely succeed. Everyone makes mistakes but it takes a strong person to learn from them.
- Surround yourself by positive people. Remember that negative people drain your energy and positive ones charge you up. Therefore, it is important that you read success stories of other people in similar situations and how they overcame job termination issues. You can also talk to other people in similar situations and learn from them. One great way to do this is visit career forums, like the KPC Forum, where you can get answers to real life questions by career experts and your colleagues regarding various career related issues.
- Get a little R & R. Although it is important to learn from your mistakes, to improve yourself, to be diligent in your job search, to make your resume the best that it can be, and to network, network, and network, you also have to allow some quality time for yourself. So take it and don't feel guilty. Take pleasure in having lunch with a friend, going to a museum, or reading a book. Rest and relax and get your mind, body, and spirit together so when you find your dream job, you'll be ready for it.
- Get help if needed. You're not a failure if you find that you can't get over it and are simply wallowing in self-pity. It takes a strong person to realize they need help and to seek it out. Therefore, it might be a good idea to talk to a professional career counselor (like the ones at KPC Resumes) so that you can honestly deal with your feelings and learn from the situation. Remember that knowledge is power and the more that you know about yourself and why this happened, then you can make sure that this situation never happens again and if it does, you will be much better equipped to handle it.
About the Author
|Kirsti Patrice Carter is an experienced copywriter, a published author, and she owns three successful online writing businesses (kpcresumes.com, kpcmarketing, and kpcwriting.com). Her book, Fire Your Boss and Hire Yourself, is being featured on freelanceyourway.com.
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