The School Bully Can Cause Problems Later In Life

Here is why you must stop your child being bullied At School

Most people will say no. Many people think it helps children to cope with a "tough world" and makes them better socially adapted since they have to work through a difficult problem on their own and "what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger".

Quite the reverse is true unfortunately for your child.

Self esteem is greatly affected. Physical and verbal abuse that is constant and chronic leads to an inferiority complex and a lack of self belief. They expect to underachieve and the process is pathological. The subconscious mind play powerful tricks on us and the school bully has been imprinted on our brains which consequently affects the child's desire to shine should the spotlight be turned on or the opportunity to follow the light at the end of the tunnel presents itself. The painful childhood memories make them hide somewhere in the middle to low end of their capability in anything. The self esteem is shattered and the desire to succeed is beaten out of them. Life becomes simpler and easier to underachieve.

The desire to put your best foot forward and promote yourself is underdeveloped. Low self esteem makes the child feel worthless. They never feel they are the one who can make a difference or get the result or get the promotion or that special job that is advertised. The school bully haunts their subconscious making them reluctant to put their head above water and they will slowly drown in their murky pool of sadness and misery. They will never push themselves forward in sport, work, the chance of promotion or in relationships. Underachievement can be expected.

Poor communication is the direct result of bullying. These children suffer terrible emotional torment and the only way of coping is to bottle up the frustration and pain and lock it away. Poor communication and social skills will make the victim of bullying introverted. Asocial behaviour will develop due to lack of self confidence. Members of the opposite sex will feel at ease with the victims of bullying since self confidence and the vital spark is lacking in a child with low self esteem from bullying. Children who are bullied at school struggle to build relationships with cohorts, coworkers and members of the opposite sex. They will miss opportunities to succeed and opportunities for promotion because they lack the "can do" attitude and the "killer instinct".

Bullying greatly affects their self confidence and their social skills.They will struggle to gain acceptance to peer groups and therefore struggle to make friends and to build social relationships. It is a lonely world without friends and this loneliness can lead to self destructive behaviours in a desperate attempt to attract attention or even worse in an attempt to do self harm.

Self defence is lacking all the way through their lives. These bullied children will live with regret from every chapter of their life as they don't have the confidence to take action when they are treated unfairly or with a lack of respect. They live with regret for what they should have said or done but didn't have the confidence or inner strength to take action. The big moments in their life will come and go with an outcome that disappoints them. They will never be able to take action because nothing ever seems to work for them due to lack of confidence and ambition.

Depression is common in children that are bullied. They will never achieve the things they are capable of in life. Bullied children grow up with sadness and a lack of self confidence. Anorexia or suicide are tragic consequences of poor self esteem that develops as a result of being bullied at school.

Most parents don't want this for their children. If you recognise low self esteem and lack of confidence in your child, you must take action immediately to prevent the snowballing of adverse events.

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