Dating For Parents Tips: The 6 Ways To Rebuild Yourself After A Divorce

You might have been devastated after the divorce. You don't want to do anything productive, just eat chocolates, junkfood and nachos, laze around and sleep dreaming your ex is having bad karma. Well, doing these things is not only bad for you physically, emotionally and mentally but delays the healing process as well- and this stops you from moving on. It's okay to sulk but don't take too long, you still have your kids.

Here are 6 things that you should do before you start dating again:

1. Time to clean out your closet.

Meaning literally and metaphorically doing so, it's time that you let go of some "stuff" and mementos that you have kept in the previous relationship. Now is the time to figure yourself out to decide which ones you'll have to leave behind, put in the trash and which one's you are going to keep. Take time to think and ponder about which ones can help you build your new life.

2. Take money matters in your own hands.

Now that you have broken up with your ex, your assets and liabilities have also been split. You may have been the one managing the money and house finances, but now it's more than just that. Now is the time that you understand and face any fears that you have over your debits and credits.

3. Get moving.

Take care of your body, don't depress over things and stop eating all those junk. Not will that only increase your dress size but it will also make you look more depressed and older. You need to take care of yourself physically. Eat healthy, do some exercise routine, get a monthly lady check up (mammograms and pap smears), and don't forget oral hygiene. You'll feel better about yourself.

4. Build new rituals.

You are not the only one that's affected by the change, your kids and even your pet can feel it. It makes everyone nervous and anxious, thinking what's going to happen now? Well, you should start building routines that you can keep and can be depended on. Continue with your family dinners and create a special bed time ritual for your kids. Once everyone has adjusted to the new ritual then there will be more time for play.

5. Spend time with your kids.

Your kids are the first thing that comes to your mind, how are they handling the situation? How are you going to manage? Well, first off, stop thinking about such things and start spending time more with your kids. Stop worrying about the laundry, dishes and bills for the moment and give yourself a break. Paint with your kids, play a game, or watch a movie. Your kids will remember the moments you spend with them than any clean shirt.

6. Don't isolate yourself, you need to let your feelings out so that it won't eat you up.

You need back up from close friends and of course, family. Friendships can create change and your family will always be there for you no matter what. The idea of dating again may seem foolish or just too foolhardy at the moment, but you have to remember that you cannot date unless you have healed and moved on completely.

Don't rush into a relationship, take a break, feel your true emotions and it's okay to mourn your loss. Get yourself on solid ground with the help of these 6 tips that you need to cover before dating.

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