How to Kick Start Your Self Esteem - Top 10 tips
If you're tired of feeling "less than", afraid of making and achieving your desires and goals, feel that no matter what you do it is never "good enough", then your self esteem could do with a boost!
Having low self esteem takes an enormous toll on the quality of your life. You take fewer risks, which limits your opportunities, both personally and professionally. You are reluctant to voice or acknowledge your needs. You are probably also haunted by past mistakes and making future ones.
It doesn't have to be like this, the tools you've used to (unconsciously) lower your self esteem are the same ones you use to raise it. The following article gives you ten tips to raise your self esteem and improve the quality of your life!
- Stop comparing yourself to other people. If you play this game, you're
likely to compare yourself in a negative way and set yourself up for
continuing to have low self esteem. Why continue to play a game where
you've set the rules against yourself, so that you're less likely to win!
- Don't keep putting yourself down! You can't develop high self esteem if
you constantly repeat negative comments about your skills and abilities.
Other people will pick up on it and take on board the negative way you
view yourself. How are they likely to treat you? Also don't beat
yourself up over "mistakes" that you've made - learn how to reframe them
so that they work for you.
- Using affirmations is an excellent way to raise your self esteem. It's
the opposite of no 1. If you can programme your mind to repeat negative
phrases about yourself (and see how effective that's been!), then you can
certainly get into the habit of continually thinking (and saying to
yourself) positive statements about you. When you do, allow yourself to
experience the positive feelings about your statements. Also use
inspirational quotes to assist you.
- Accept all compliments graciously. Don't dismiss or ignore them. When
you do you give yourself the message that you do not deserve or are not
worthy of praise, which reflects low self esteem. It also means that
others will become more reluctant to praise or acknowledge your abilities,
if you don't.
- Take advantage of and use life coaching programs, workshops, books on
how to raise your self esteem and develop a more positive attitude.
Whatever material you see, read acts as subliminal learning, which means
that it will plant itself in your mind and dominate your behavior. Talk
about food for thought - what diet is your mind on? Is it a nourishing
- Mix with positive and supportive people. Who you associate with
influences your thoughts, actions and behavior - another form of
subliminal learning. Negative people can put you and your ideas down and
it lowers your self esteem. On the other hand, when you are surrounded by
supportive people, you feel better about yourself, which helps to raise
your self esteem. Learn how to develop your positive personal support
- Acknowledge your positive qualities and skills. Too many people with
low self esteem constantly put themselves down (back to no 1 again!) and
don't appreciate their many positive attributes. Learn how to truly
affirm and value your many excellent qualities. If you find this
difficult, ask others to tell you. They'll come up with things you would
never have imagined!
- Stop putting up with stuff! Not voicing or acknowledging your needs
means that you are probably tolerating more than you should. Find out
what you're putting up with and zap those tolerations. By doing so,
you're giving yourself the message that you're worth it.
- Make positive contributions to others. This doesn't mean that you
constantly do for others what they could be doing for themselves. But
when you do make a positive contribution to others, you begin to feel more
valuable, which increases your sense of your own value and raises your
- Involve yourself in work and activities that you love. So many people with low self esteem stop doing those activities that they most enjoy. Even if you're not in a position to to make immediate changes in your career, you can still devote some of your leisure time to enjoyable hobbies and activities.
Start taking action! The universe rewards action. Backing away and avoiding challenges means that your self esteem muscles become weak and flabby. When you start to take action - regardless of the outcome - you will start to feel better about yourself, develop your self confidence and raise your self esteem.
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