Time Management Tips - You Can Explore Double Messages To Untangle Time Knots
Time management tips generate great results when you are solidly behind them. However, what happens when you are frankly torn about how to proceed? Do you find yourself intending to do one thing but then spending time doing something completely different?
In these instances, there is simply no way that conventional time management strategies can help you budge.. But that is no reason to give up. When you explore double messages, you begin a rewarding journey to reclaim those precious hours.
1. Don't Give Up - Look Back to Move Forward.
When you can't make sense of your time choices, perhaps you are simply working off of messages you received as a child. Why not take a few minutes to decipher these puzzling patterns? The insights are beneficial - especially if you enjoy replacing outmoded habits with more rewarding choices.
For this chronological makeover, you may need more than an accurate memory. You need to identify when words and actions don't match up. Did Mom and Dad always do what they said was most important? Or more often than not, did "What I do" bear no relation to "What I say"? Exploring your legacy of contradictions can improve your life greatly.
2. A Mixed Message Hits the Hardest..
For example, perhaps your father instructed you to make use of your time in one way but in fact his choices had no relation to what he advised.. How did you feel then, and what are your feelings about it now? Conflicting messages that confused you as a child can easily lead to "disconnects" in later life. And these mismatched impressions lead to painful, lost opportunities. Happily, you possess the ability to resolve these conflicts and redirect your energies in a coordinated way.. Even better, you can take an important step forward today!
3. Double Message Exercise Brings Double Benefits.
A. Think of an example where you really wrestle with matching your time choices with your expressed values.
B. Now, recall a time during your childhood when someone you looked up to said one thing about time but did something quite different.
C. Jot down the message and the mismatched action.
D. Write down how this made you feel when it happened..
E. Examine the situation that you are wrestling with currently, and explore how it relates to what you saw those around you doing during your childhood..
F. What's the same? What differs? What of patterns do you see? Patterns always tell tales.
G. Now that you're listening to discrepancies between the acts and the words, consult your heart.
H. What insights can you gain from considering your parents' histories that will strengthen your capacity for change right now??
I. What past incidents have constricted your sense of possibilities?
J. Envision a path opening before you - one that leads to more rewarding time choices. Make this image as vivid as possible, so you can really experience your progress on this path. This simple exercise can free you to write a new life script for yourself..
K. Finally, visualize walking this path and aligning deeds with words. What do you require of yourself at this time?? What is your first step?
By participating in this exercise, you enjoy at least two benefits. It is essential that you bring gentle acceptance and full awareness to any time choices you once made that worked against you.. Empathy feels so much better! Second, you possess a stronger ability to change a troubling time choice, once you understand its roots.
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