Read the Signs: Is He Cheating?

When a man cheats, you can nearly always tell

Most people have wondered, at one time or another, if their partner was cheating in the relationship. When men cheat there are often signs which are blatant and obvious to a careful observer, but perhaps seem a great deal more subtle and easily missed by the partner in the relationship. Today we'll explorer some of those signs and what they might mean. It is important to remember, before we begin, that these signs are not proof of cheating and in many cases where only one or two of these signs are present they could indicate a different problem entirely, and not always with the relationship itself. If you do see a pattern of behavior developing which involves a combination of several of the following signs simultaneously then it might be time to get suspicious.

Emotional

* Distance. Does your man seem far away when you spend time with him? It might happen when you and he are alone together, but it could also occur when socializing with family or friends. His attention will wander, or you will catch him just staring off into space (make sure he is not just watching a television). He might be acting more loving towards you than ever before (a compensation for guilt) or he could be acting like he wishes you were not there at all (he's thinking of someone else).

* Tension. Things that you would never have fought over not so long ago are all of a sudden major flashpoints in the relationship. It's easier than usual to find yourself in the middle of a big fight and a lot harder than usual to make up afterwards. After a big fight take notice of any strange behavior, espeically if he left in the middle of one and came back a while later.

Intimate differences

* One big telltale of a cheat is that all of a sudden, the intimate relationship will change. A loss of interest in your physical relationship could mean he's "getting it" elsewhere, but it could also be brought on by stress or a number of other factors.

* If he doesn't hug you or kiss you as long as he used to, that may also be a sign of cheating. Unlike previously, when you would hold each other for a while and had fun just kissing, but these small signs of affection will diminish or disappear, because someone else is receiving the real affection now.

Physical Details

Physical details are one of the most obvious signs of a cheat. Often, they are quite easy to spot, but use caution because unless you are careful he may well catch on to what you are doing.

* Did he suddenly seem to develop a sense of style, dress nicer than usual or perhaps start wearing a new cologne?

* Pay attention to his appearance. Is he noticeably ruffled when returning from somewhere, in ways that raise your suspicions? Look at his hair -- most men don't realize their hair has a habit of getting messed up slightly when they've been intimate with someone. You are bound to have picked up on this at some point in your relationship.

* Be especially suspicious if he seems to be showering unnecessarily or unusually frequently. Guys are aware that the smell of another woman will linger, so a shower will be important after he leaves her.

If you can get over the natural denial, you should be able to trust your instincts to tell you if your man is cheating. There will literally be dozens of different (often obvious) clues to pick up on; most people are not really surprised when the affair is confirmed, because they really already knew. It is important to say again, but do not just assume that an affair is to blame for any of the above. The last thing you want is to start a fight over unfounded suspicions, especially not if that fight actually leads to him cheating! Try not to accuse until you know for sure.

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