The 3 Biggest Mistakes Made When Trying To Get A Girl's Number

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Wow, a girl's phone number, the pinnacle of male achievement, an ego booster and usually the first step to taking things further with any woman. What you are about to learn, or learn to avoid, has the ability to change the way that you approach dating and women forever. I am going to be covering the '3 Biggest Mistakes' that most men make when trying to talk to women and what you can do to ensure you get the best results possible.

The sad truth is that most guys are dishonest when it comes to dating. Most guys are plain out liars and it completely destroys their chances of getting anywhere with women. Conversely, if you can understand where your dishonesty lies (excuse the pun), then you will be able to gain complete control over when and how you meet women and better still, you will be able to attract the women of your dreams into your life in a matter of weeks.

Here are the 3 biggest mistakes that men make when trying to get a girl's phone number:

1. They lie before they begin

Ok, so I'll cut to the chase and prove this reality to you. I want you to put yourself in a situation. I want to imagine that you are walking down the main hub of your nearest shopping centre. Now, I want you to imagine that a drop-dead-gorgeous woman walks past you, she has amazing long, dark hair, a beautiful face and a body that is to die for. So what do you do? Ahhhh, here is where the problem lies. Why don't you approach her, you'd love to be with her (in a relationship) right? Then why don't you approach her and see if you guys connect?

The fact is that most men are always on a quest to 'get a girl's number', we are always thinking about women, whether it is craving sex, or craving affection, both of which are perfectly normal. The biggest problem or mistake that men make when it comes to women is lacking the honesty, courage and motivation to actually approach her in the first place. The reason that this is all too true is fear. Fear of being rejected, fear of making a fool out of yourself, the fear that she is too good for you. What most guys don't understand is that most women want guys to approach them; if they are single they are actually desperate to be approached.We take the nicest of guys who may never have kissed a girl before and by the time we have finished with them, they have the ability to approach any girl at any time, not matter how good looking, no matter what the situation provides.

Ok, truth be told, this only happens because we teach them exactly how to do it without getting rejected and by making the approach a positive situation for them and the women, but nevertheless, these guys are probably at the lowest skill level of any guy when it comes to interacting with women. All you need to do is understand that your perfect girl is out there right now, shopping, at work, walking the dog, she is doing something, it's not like she doesn't exist until you see her. So every day that you let pass without having the courage to try and 'Find That Girl', she waits for you. So start allowing yourself opportunity to find her for both of your sakes, remember that whoever she might be is going to love you for who you are and be so grateful for you approaching her in the first place.

2. They lie throughout the dating process

Ok so I know you are probably thinking, so what now? However, I am speaking the truth in order to help you guys get the best results with women and to get them today. So what do I mean this time, how are you being dishonest throughout the dating process and how is that making it harder for you to succeed with women?

Have you ever got a girl's number and been 'On the text' with her? How did you play that game? Let me guess, you didn't just reply with whatever you wanted, you had a good think about every contingency, you didn't want to come across as being too interested, right? You might have even waited a few days to text her in case she thought you were too keen. If this has ever been you, it's ok, you're not alone. This is the way that most guys approach their dating experience, however, you are not only wrecking your chances of having a successful relationship with her, but you are also drawing out the time between when you first meet her and when you first make love.

Let me suggest an alternative. Let me suggest that instead of trying to play games with the girl, that you put yourself on the line and take an upfront approach. So how could that look? Well to start with, when you first meet her, don't beat around the bush. That doesn't mean be disrespectful by making sexual comments, but, tell her what it was that attracted you to her in the first place; did you think that she was gorgeous? Did you think that she had a nice dress on? Were you taken aback by her smile?

Secondly, when you are texting her, be real. Don't feel the need to play hard to get, just simply tell her that you enjoyed meeting her and that you'd like to catch up with her again. If there was any kind of a connection in the beginning, then you'll be pleasantly surprised at how quickly things will escalate.

3. They lie at crunch time

When push comes to shove, as mentioned in the first line of this article the 'phone number' is crucial. Not because it has any symbolic meaning, however, because if you don't get her phone number you may never see that girl again. I know this to be true by experience. Not only, will you never see her again, but, you will leave yourself wondering and regretting. Have you ever really wanted to approach a girl, but you couldn't muster up the courage to do so? Then it literally ate at you for days later? If you push yourself to speak to someone and then really enjoy that initial interaction, not asking for the number is like winning a race and not accepting the trophy.

The best piece of advice that I could give to you, is to make sure that you ask for it 'comfortably'. So by comfortably, I mean that firstly you need to be comfortable when asking for the number or she'll sense awkwardness and that will kill her confidence in you and secondly you need to make sure that she knows that you want to catch up for something low pressure I.e. a quick coffee and not a romantic dinner. That way she senses that you are enough of a man to ask for the number with confidence and also doesn't feel too much pressure for the catch up option, because a quick coffee can provide an escape route if it isn't going well.

If you feel like you are currently being hated on about being dishonest, just relax. The reality is that it isn't your fault that you are uneducated in this area. The reason that most guys avoid being honest is out of fear. What guys don't realise is that by not tackling these fears, you are in fact inhibiting yourself from truly finding that girl, finding someone that could change your life forever. So go out there and start to be honest with yourself enough to attract a woman into your life that you truly deserve.

If you have read to the bottom of this article I can only assume that you see the truth in what I am saying, which puts you 10 steps ahead of your average guy. Make sure that you don't just read this and skip forwards to doing the next menial task your life puts ahead of you. Take action. Start being true to yourself and attract that amazing women into you life and give 110% to making sure her life is over and above what she ever could have hoped for!

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